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How can I negotiate with a difficult ex at divorce?

On Behalf of | Jan 3, 2020 | Divorce

A divorce is usually filed for when both spouses can no longer connect or communicate in the way that they used to. Events that took place before the divorce came about may have caused hurt, anger and heartbreak, which can further sever ties between a couple. However, divorcing spouses need to work together if they want to gain a mutually beneficial divorce settlement.

If you are frustrated by your ex’s toxic behavior after filing for divorce and you are worried that their lack of communication will sabotage your efforts to negotiate a divorce settlement, you should think about your options. Strong negotiation strategies are key when it comes to dealing with difficult ex-partners. The following are some strategies to help you in your negotiations.

Understand your financial situation and how the law applies

You should never enter into a negotiation without having a thorough understanding of your situation. Being poorly informed will not only affect your ability to make sound negotiations, but it will also affect your confidence and sense of self-assurance. Therefore, the first thing you should do is conduct thorough research into the law and your personal affairs.

Have a clear goal in mind

Truly knowing what you want is not as simple as one might think, especially in an emotionally turbulent time such as in a divorce. Therefore, you should take the time to reflect on where you see yourself in five years and what type of divorce settlement will help you to achieve that.

Know what motivates your divorcing spouse

No matter how toxic and difficult your divorcing spouse is being, it can still be beneficial to put yourself into their shoes. By doing so, you will understand what goals are motivating them and what type of propositions will help you to move forward with negotiations positively. Understanding the way that your divorcing spouse thinks can be invaluable to the divorce negotiation process.

If you expect that negotiating with your divorcing spouse will be difficult, you must plan ahead. Understanding the law will create a great foundation for you to act with confidence and to get the result that you deserve so that you can move forward with your life.