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How to ask for a prenuptial agreement without ruining your relationship

| Dec 7, 2020 | Family Law & Divorce

Maybe you strongly believe that you should create a prenuptial agreement before tying the knot. Or maybe you’ve been thinking about this, but have backed off because you don’t want to upset your partner before your wedding day arrives.

There’s nothing simple about asking for a prenuptial agreement. Furthermore, if you don’t take the right approach, it could result in driving a stake between the two of you during what’s supposed to be one of the most exciting times of your life.

Follow these tips

Even though it can be stressful and complicated to ask your soon-to-be spouse for a prenuptial agreement, there are tips you can follow to ease the tension. Here’s what you should do:

  • Give yourself time: Don’t ask for a prenuptial agreement a week before your wedding day. Once you know you’re going to get married, begin to have discussions about creating a prenuptial agreement. This gives you enough time to work through all the details that are important to the both of you.
  • Share your true feelings: Don’t hide anything from your partner. If there’s a specific reason why you want a prenuptial agreement, share your feelings and ask for feedback.
  • Hear them out: It’s easy to do all the talking when you’re the one who’s asking for a prenuptial agreement. But if you don’t hear out your partner, you may put them off. Should that happen, they’re less likely to be willing to learn more.
  • Don’t try to take advantage of your partner: A prenuptial agreement is something that should benefit the both of you. Taking advantage of your partner is a bad idea, as it can cause tension before you ever get married. Furthermore, it can result in your prenuptial agreement being invalid in the event of a divorce.

When you do the above, you’re able to more confidently ask for a prenuptial agreement. Not to mention the fact that these tips will help you prevent an argument.

You don’t have to create a prenuptial agreement, but you might as well consider the pros and cons and then discuss your feelings with your partner.