The holidays are a time when families gather together. While you were married, you and your ex likely did things together. Now that you are going through a divorce, you might find that things are changing. You will need to find ways to make it through it all.
Try to be flexible with your plans. Many events are going to require that you RSVP ahead of time. Even in these cases, you can always opt to not go to an event if you aren't up for it. You might be shocked at some of the things that are going to trigger volatile emotions. You may need to spend some time alone. Don't stress yourself out by doing too much.
You also have to think carefully about when you will celebrate special days. If you have children, they might be with your ex on a specific holiday. You can always change the date that you celebrate with them. Just because the calendar says Christmas Day is Dec. 25 doesn't mean that you can't turn Dec. 23 or 26 or any other day into Christmas with the kids.
Focus on having fun. No matter what happened that led up to the divorce and what is going on with the split now, you have a right to be happy. This might not happen in the same way as it did in years past, but you are in control of your own attitude, so have a good one.
Now might be a good time to reach out to family members and friends who you didn't spend much time with when you were married. The holidays are a great opportunity to reconnect.